Sit yourself in a food court or any bench at a shopping centre and you’re bound to see badly-dressed people. Mismatched outfit, ill-fitting clothes, stained, ripped, whatever is your definition of “badly-dressed”.
I am not a fashionista, I don’t know anything about fashion. My style is pretty weird and not many get it. For me, the more colours/patterns in one outfit, the weirdest the outfit, the better. I am the last person who should judge. I also understand that clothes are used to express who you are. I know all this.
However, I just cannot help but judge when I see a teenage girl wearing handkerchiefs for clothes. An outfit so skimpy, she might as well be naked. I judge some more when these handkerchiefs are obviously two, three sizes too small. Watching short shorts getting eaten with each step is really not that attractive. Surely?
I mean, I am all for wearing whatever you like. Embrace your body, your skin, whatever size it comes in. Love yourself, express yourself as how you see fit. Etc etc.
So how do you find that balance?
I ask you this because having a daughter scare the living daylight out of me, and there is a possibility that I might have one one day, and I obviously want to raise a balanced, confident woman. No matter what size she is, or what clothes she wears.
But I really cannot see myself letting my daughter go out wearing these so-called clothes, when it doesn’t fit properly and/or super skimpy. I also know that whatever I say, spoken as her mum, will most likely be taken badly. Urgh. Girls are so scary.
How do I find that balance???